Most of the time, when you hear "physical intimacy" or "physical connection," people are talking about sex. But in our work with couples, we've seen that loving, non-sexual touch (physical intimacy) is absolutely vital for marriage, right alongside sexual intimacy. Here's the thing: you can have physical intimacy without it leading to sex. But strong sexual intimacy without physical touch? Nearly impossible. The two are so connected that a lack of physical intimacy often leads to...
8 days ago • 3 min read
Tomorrow is National Conflict Resolution Day. It's not the most glamorous holiday, but it's absolutely vital for your marriage. Obviously, you and your spouse are different people with different ideas, opinions, and preferences. That means conflict is inevitable. But it doesn't have to be dysfunctional, toxic, or destructive. After coaching hundreds of couples, I noticed a clear conflict cycle that every couple goes through. When you understand the cycle, you can interrupt it and stay...
15 days ago • 3 min read
"We talk all the time, but I don't feel like we're really connecting." I (Alisa) can't tell you how often I hear this from couples I'm coaching. It can be incredibly discouraging because you feel like you're doing what you're supposed to... and yet you don't feel close emotionally. One thing I've found in working with so many couples is that what works for one couple might not work for another. So if you've just been trying to "talk more" without much success... you might be going about it...
22 days ago • 3 min read
With our anniversary right around the corner (29 years on Sunday!) I've been thinking about traditional anniversary gifts... What I love most is that each theme reflects the growing strength of marriage through the years. You start out with delicate paper in year one, then upgrade to wood, bronze, crystal, until you eventually reach unbreakable diamond (year 60). It's such a beautiful picture of how time and life's pressures create an unshakeable love and an extraordinary marriage. Now, we...
29 days ago • 4 min read
Best of the Month Check out the top content from this month, including this week's featured article 👇 NEW: Reignite Sexual Desire Having sex less than 10x a year? Read this NOW. Read article Episode 874 What if you focused on slow, mindful touch rather than rushing to an orgasm? Listen now The Silent Bedroom Struggle There's a struggle happening in bedrooms across America that no one talks about: the gap between wanting passionate sexual intimacy and having no idea how to create it. Foreplay...
2 months ago • 1 min read
It's back to school season! 🏫 And while you might be focused on getting your kids ready for school or sending your young adults off to college, there's someone else who needs to head back to school: YOU! Marriage is an ongoing education in who your spouse is continually becoming. Especially as you hit midlife, you're both always growing and changing. The person you married isn't exactly the same person sitting across from you at breakfast today (and that's actually a beautiful thing). 📚 But...
2 months ago • 3 min read
You're juggling work, kids, and a million responsibilities. The last thing you need is your spouse hiding purchases or arguing about every dollar spent. But here's the brutal truth: financial problems fuel 20-40% of all divorces. Sound familiar? Heated arguments over money decisions Secret spending behind each other's backs Hidden debt that suddenly surfaces Constant tension about financial priorities These money issues don't solve themselves. The fastest way to protect your marriage is to...
3 months ago • 3 min read
Best of the Month Check out the top content from this month, including this week's NEW article 👇 It's Time to Get Away Together Here's your permission slip to plan that couples getaway you've been putting off. Read article Does Longer Sex = Better Sex? How to create sexual intimacy that satisfies both of you. Listen now Our Favorite Bedroom Items Unwind and connect sexually with your spouse. Read article Masking Your Feelings to Keep the Peace? Stop pretending, start being real. Listen now ▶️...
3 months ago • 1 min read
For most married couples, forgiveness is a daily practice. Whether you're letting go of the little things (like your spouse loading the dishwasher “wrong”) or reeling from a deeper betrayal like infidelity or secret spending... it still hurts. We’re human, and we all make mistakes. But when all you feel is pain, it’s easy to get stuck in a cycle of resentment. What we've learned over the years is that forgiveness isn’t about excusing the behavior or letting your spouse off the hook. It’s...
4 months ago • 3 min read