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Thrive in midlife (and keep the spark alive!)

Published 7 months ago • 3 min read

As I (Alisa) have worked with thousands of couples over the years, I've noticed that most wives feel like they have to "push through" the menopause season.

The truth is that a woman will spend around 1/3 of her life in peri- or post-menopause.

It shouldn't be miserable. And it doesn't have to be.

In today's article, I'm sharing three specific habits that are game-changers for women who want to embrace the beauty that this season of life can bring.

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Love you guys,
Tony & Alisa

P.S. Husbands, you have a role to play too! Encourage your wife to implement these habits, and help make it possible for her. Cross an item or two off her to-do list so she has the time and energy to invest in herself. 🩷

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Menopause is often viewed as just a phase of discomfort, but it’s truly a beautiful time of growth, reflection, and renewal.

There are so many areas of life to consider during this season: emotional well-being, sexual intimacy, long-term wellness, and more.

Menopause will touch all of them, and yes, you may face some bumps in the road along the way.

But remember this: Every single step forward is an opportunity for growth and deeper understanding of who you are.

🌸 Here are three powerful tips to help you navigate this transition with resilience and self-compassion.​

Today's Trivia

Question: What percentage of people in the ONE Family prefer experiences over gifts? 🎁

A. 20%

B. 40%

C. 60%

D. 80%

⬇️ Scroll to the end for the answer.

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Our Top 3 Vacation Sex Tips

Whether you’re planning a getaway to a tropical island, the mountains, the lake, or enjoying a weekend romantic getaway, you’re probably expecting some “fun” between the two of you.

To set yourselves up for success, you need to be on the same team with your spouse before you leave. ⤵️

1. Set Sexpectations Before You Leave

Before you leave on your trip, have a heart-to-heart conversation about what sex is going to look like while you’re away.

It’s so important to establish your sexpectations before traveling. How often do you want to have sex? Where do you want to have sex? How will each of you initiate?

Whatever you choose together, make sure you both follow through with your plan during your time away.

2. Use Every Inch of Space

Having sex in a new location may feel as if you are stepping out of your comfort zone. That’s OK!

When you do, you bring anticipation and excitement into your sexual intimacy. From jumping in the shower to an evening under the stars, pick at least one new spot where you can have vacation sex.

It’s amazing how much different it can be when you change the scenery and your normal sex locations.

3. Bring Proper Supplies — and Common Sense — for Sex in the Water

If you’re planning to have sex in water (pool, hot tub, lake, river, ocean, you name it) be ready.

Water is not your friend. In fact, water washes away natural female lubrication, which can increase the likelihood of getting a UTI and/or vaginal irritation.

Bring plenty of lubricant. This may not be the time for a long foreplay session, which is OK. Having a bottle of lubricant handy can increase your ability to have sex in the water.

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Today's Trivia Answer

Question: What percentage of people in the ONE Family prefer experiences over gifts? 🎁

A. 20%

B. 40%

C. 60%

D. 80%

Whether it's a birthday, anniversary, or other holiday, it's a good idea to talk with your spouse about expectations.

You might spend hours and hours (and lots of $$) finding them the perfect gift... only to discover they had their heart set on a specific experience or adventure.

There’s no right answer. And what you each prefer this year might be different next year.

But you won't know unless you talk about it!

​Here's how to have the "gifts vs experiences" conversation >>​

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Hey we're Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

We are the co-authors of the Amazon best seller, The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and 7 Days of Sex Challenge book. We believe that the healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together. We write, podcast, and coach couples around the world. We have been married since 1996 and have a son and a daughter. We live in Naples, FL

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