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💥 Tired of Fighting at 7 AM?

Published 7 months ago • 3 min read

I (Alisa) can’t tell you how many nights I lie awake at 3 AM with my mind racing, drenched in sweat, staring at the ceiling.

And then there’s Tony, sound asleep next to me.

I feel that flash of frustration... Why doesn’t he have to deal with this?

Except he does. Our bed turns into a sauna overnight, and as I toss and turn trying to get comfortable, it usually wakes him up too.

So when morning comes, we're both exhausted (and probably not our best selves).

This kind of sleep disruption can quietly wreak havoc on a marriage. And no one's talking about it!

That's why today's article has 4 practical tips to help both of you navigate this frustration as a team.

👉 Click here to read now​

Love you guys,
Tony & Alisa

Today's Trivia

Question: What percentage of couples in the ONE Family say that pornography has impacted their marriage?

A. 11%

B. 19%

C. 27%

D. 35%

⬇️ Scroll to the end for the answer.

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If you’re waking up at 3 AM night after night, you’re not alone. And you’re not imagining it.

For many women going through perimenopause and menopause, this sleep disruption is frustratingly common.

Known by some as the “3 AM phenomenon,” these early morning wake-ups are often tied to changes in hormone levels and a spike in cortisol.

But beyond fatigue, these sleep disturbances can quietly impact your marriage in significant ways.

⏰ Here's what's actually happening at 3 AM and our best tips for navigating sleep disturbances during menopause >> ​

Show Some Appreciation in the Bedroom 😉

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Today's Trivia Answer

Question: What percentage of couples in the ONE Family say that pornography has impacted their marriage?

A. 11%

B. 19%

C. 27%

D. 35%

Pornography use is not a harmless act. Pornography systematically destroys the intimate connection between you and your spouse in all 6 Pillars of Intimacy®.

It deteriorates your bond, shatters trust, and creates barriers to genuine emotional and sexual intimacy.

The fallout from pornography addiction includes feelings of guilt, shame, or inadequacy.

It contributes to a lack of desire, lack of sex, or inability to orgasm.

But know this: if your marriage has been impacted by pornography, there is still hope.

​Here are five ways to begin restoring closeness and connection after pornography use is revealed >> ​

When you're ready, here are 3 ways we can help you...

  1. Join the ​private ONE Family Facebook group​. Connect with others in the ONE Family who are strengthening their 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and more. - Tap Here
  2. Don’t settle for a “logistics-only” marriage. Transform your marriage from one that is emotionally distant and sexually frustrated to one of deep connection and passion. - Tap Here Now​​
  3. Work with Alisa One-on-One. If you'd like to work directly with Alisa to improve your marriage... just reply to this message and put "One-on-One" in the subject line... share a little about what's going on in your marriage and she'll get you all the details.

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Hey we're Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

We are the co-authors of the Amazon best seller, The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and 7 Days of Sex Challenge book. We believe that the healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together. We write, podcast, and coach couples around the world. We have been married since 1996 and have a son and a daughter. We live in Naples, FL

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