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Hey we're Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

We are the co-authors of the Amazon best seller, The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and 7 Days of Sex Challenge book. We believe that the healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together. We write, podcast, and coach couples around the world. We have been married since 1996 and have a son and a daughter. We live in Naples, FL

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Divorces skyrocket in January 📈

Hey Reader, You may have heard that January is called "Divorce Month" in the USA. While it's true that some couples choose to walk away from their marriage in the new year, you can choose something different. You can choose to take small steps that build the marriage you actually want. Click below to watch today's video ▶️ So tell us: are you showing up intentional in your marriage or are things sort of drifting? Share your answer in the poll below ⬇️ Love you guys,Tony & Alisa 👉 This season...

Hey Reader, we're so excited to kick off 2026 with a new way to connect with you! On Thursdays, we'll be coming to you with short, practical videos you won't find anywhere else. Click below to watch today's video ▶️ This is our chance to get personal, share what we're seeing in marriages, and give you simple thoughts or action steps you can take this week. We want to hear from you ⬇️ Check out the poll below to share your thoughts on what's stealing your connection most. Love you guys,Tony &...

Best of the Year! Check out the top content from 2025 👇 3 New Sex Position Ideas Try one of these creative positions to strengthen your closeness and connection. Read Article 47 Positive Words to Describe Your Spouse Choose an uplifting word to speak over your spouse today! View Full List Feel Close Again Without Awkward Conversations Most couples don’t need to talk more. They just need a better way to talk. On December 28, we’re releasing a new emotional intimacy program designed for couples...

The 12 Days of Christmas technically start next week. 🎄 But there's no better time than right now to put some intentional effort into your marriage. Our 12 Days of Christmas Challenge helps you do just that. Start today. Or on Christmas Day. Or whenever works for you! Each day has a simple way to strengthen your closeness and connection (in other words, intimacy). A glimpse of the ideas: Write love letters Share a romantic meal Reflect on 2025 and dream about 2026 Go analog with a board game...

This Christmas, give a gift that actually strengthens your marriage—not just for one night, but for the long haul. Our Romantic Gift Guide features some of our all-time favorites: Überlube Liberator furniture And other intimacy essentials These gifts are designed to deepen your sexual connection. And they're tools you can reach for again and again! Order by December 17 to ensure your gifts arrive in time for Christmas. View the full list >>> Love you guys,Tony & Alisa Today's Trivia Question:...

With just 5 weeks until Christmas, now's the time to start thinking about gifts that show your spouse you truly see them. Husbands: If your wife is navigating menopause, this season of life comes with real physical changes. And a thoughtful gift can make a meaningful difference in how she feels every day. Our Menopause Gift Guide is filled with practical, beautiful options designed to help her feel comfortable, confident, and cared for during this transition. View the Menopause Gift Guide >>...

Want to feel happier in your marriage? Boost your self-esteem? Feel more connected to your spouse? The answer is simpler than you think: expressing gratitude. When you verbalize appreciation (actually saying "Thank you" or "I appreciate you"), you create a positive cycle that keeps your emotional intimacy strong. We've got 4 research-backed reasons why gratitude should be non-negotiable in your marriage, plus a FREE Gratitude Planner that makes it easy to build this into your daily routine....

Holidays start to look different once your kids grow up... We're not quite empty nesters yet, but our kids are often doing their own thing. We're in this weird in-between stage: not creating the same holiday magic we used to, but they're still around (just... differently). It's bittersweet. But here's what we've learned: The right gift can make this season special for just the two of you. Whether you're fully empty nesters or navigating the transition like us, we found 12 thoughtful gifts to...

Best of the Month Check out the top content from this month, including this week's featured article 👇 15 Dates That Won't Break the Bank Money is the biggest barrier to romance... Let's fix that! [NEW] Read Article Anniversary Gifts By Year Celebrate major milestones with these meaningful gifts. View Full List The MOST Common Conflict Pattern 67% of couples experience the silent treatment. Listen Now Your Marriage Needs Touch Quick ways to boost your physical connection today Read Article ▶️...

Most of the time, when you hear "physical intimacy" or "physical connection," people are talking about sex. But in our work with couples, we've seen that loving, non-sexual touch (physical intimacy) is absolutely vital for marriage, right alongside sexual intimacy. Here's the thing: you can have physical intimacy without it leading to sex. But strong sexual intimacy without physical touch? Nearly impossible. The two are so connected that a lack of physical intimacy often leads to...