When “I’m fine” isn’t fine 🫥


Hey Reader,

Have you ever asked your spouse what’s wrong and heard, “Nothing”... even when you know that’s not true?

Over time, exchanges like this can become a conflict pattern you keep repeating.

Emotional intimacy conflict can look like:

  • Walking on eggshells
  • Small things becoming big arguments
  • Moving on without actually repairing the issue

Today's video shares why this pattern creates distance and 3 practical ways to interrupt the cycle.

▶️ Click here to watch today's video

🤔 We're curious... When conflict starts, what are you most likely to do?

Share your answer in the poll below ⬇️

Love you guys,
Tony & Alisa

P.S. Want a rock-solid marriage? These 5 simple habits may matter more than the big things you’re trying to fix.

Go Deeper with Your 6 Pillars

The success of any big thing, such as a rock-solid marriage, can be summed up by a lot of little things done well.

Marriage is no different.

If you get a lot of little things right, you can step back after a while and see you are really getting the big thing headed in the right direction.

When you're ready, here are 3 ways we can help you...

  1. Join the ​private ONE Family Facebook group​. Connect with others in the ONE Family who are strengthening their 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and more. - Tap Here
  2. Don’t settle for a “logistics-only” marriage. Transform your marriage from one that is emotionally distant and sexually frustrated to one of deep connection and passion. - Tap Here Now​​
  3. Work with Alisa One-on-One. If you'd like to work directly with Alisa to improve your marriage... just reply to this message and put "One-on-One" in the subject line... share a little about what's going on in your marriage and she'll get you all the details.

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