When “I’m fine” isn’t fine 🫥


Hey Reader,

Have you ever asked your spouse what’s wrong and heard, “Nothing”... even when you know that’s not true?

Over time, exchanges like this can become a conflict pattern you keep repeating.

Emotional intimacy conflict can look like:

  • Walking on eggshells
  • Small things becoming big arguments
  • Moving on without actually repairing the issue

Today's video shares why this pattern creates distance and 3 practical ways to interrupt the cycle.

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🤔 We're curious... When conflict starts, what are you most likely to do?

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Love you guys,
Tony & Alisa

P.S. Want a rock-solid marriage? These 5 simple habits may matter more than the big things you’re trying to fix.

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The success of any big thing, such as a rock-solid marriage, can be summed up by a lot of little things done well.

Marriage is no different.

If you get a lot of little things right, you can step back after a while and see you are really getting the big thing headed in the right direction.

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