📖 Your marriage pop quiz


It's back to school season! 🏫

And while you might be focused on getting your kids ready for school or sending your young adults off to college, there's someone else who needs to head back to school: YOU!

Marriage is an ongoing education in who your spouse is continually becoming. Especially as you hit midlife, you're both always growing and changing.

The person you married isn't exactly the same person sitting across from you at breakfast today (and that's actually a beautiful thing).

📚 But when was the last time you approached your marriage with the curiosity of a new student?

📝 When did you last ask genuine questions about what makes your spouse tick... right now?

In today's article, we're sharing the "curriculum" for rediscovering your spouse and your homework assignment that'll help you fall in love with who they're becoming.

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Love you guys,

Tony & Alisa

Today's Trivia

Question: What percentage of people in the ONE Family say they enjoy RECEIVING oral sex from their spouse?

A. 34%

B. 50%

C. 66%

D. 82%

⬇️ Scroll to the end for the answer.

Today's Article

The smell of new notebooks, fresh crayons, and possibility fills the air.

The back-to-school season brings with it a familiar energy and excitement of starting fresh, meeting new people, and learning something new.

But when was the last time you approached your marriage with that same curiosity?

If you’re like most married couples, especially those of us in our 40s and 50s, you might feel like you know everything there is to know about your spouse.

After all, you’ve been together for years, maybe even decades.

You know how they take their coffee, their favorite TV shows, and exactly which way they’ll load the dishwasher.

But while you’re changing and growing (and we all are as we navigate midlife), your spouse is changing too...

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Today's Trivia Answer

Question: What percentage of people in the ONE Family say they enjoy RECEIVING oral sex from their spouse?

A. 34%

B. 50%

C. 66%

D. 82%

Oral sex is one of those areas of sexual intimacy that lots of people think about but no one talks about.

Just to be clear: Oral sex is any sexual activity in which you stimulate your spouse’s genitals with your mouth. You may have also heard it referred to as cunnilingus and fellatio.

Some people feel that this is an absolutely NO-GO while others are all for it. In some marriages, it might also be a one way street and others make it a couples thing.

Oral sex can be a great tool for any marriage. And yet this is one of those areas within sexual intimacy that doesn’t just happen.

You need to talk about what you would like to try and if oral sex is not part of your marriage toolbox… why isn’t it?

Listen to our episode on this topic:

👅 Episode 663: Oral Sex — Cunnilingus and Fellatio

When you're ready, here are 3 ways we can help you...

  1. Join the ​private ONE Family Facebook group​. Connect with others in the ONE Family who are strengthening their 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and more. - Tap Here
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Hey we're Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

We are the co-authors of the Amazon best seller, The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and 7 Days of Sex Challenge book. We believe that the healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together. We write, podcast, and coach couples around the world. We have been married since 1996 and have a son and a daughter. We live in Naples, FL

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