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Make this season special

Published about 9 hours ago • 3 min read

Holidays start to look different once your kids grow up...

We're not quite empty nesters yet, but our kids are often doing their own thing.

We're in this weird in-between stage: not creating the same holiday magic we used to, but they're still around (just... differently).

It's bittersweet.

But here's what we've learned: The right gift can make this season special for just the two of you.

Whether you're fully empty nesters or navigating the transition like us, we found 12 thoughtful gifts to help you embrace this new chapter:

  • Scratch-off date ideas
  • Intimate massage creams
  • Hobby kits
  • Travel maps
  • And more!

​View the Empty Nester Gift Guide >>​

And since it's early November, you can get your shopping done now and check it off your list!

Love you guys,

Tony & Alisa

Today's Trivia

Question: What percentage of ONE Family couples have boundaries about what they share with friends and family regarding their sex life?

A. 11%

B. 36%

C. 61%

D. 86%

⬇️ Scroll to the end for the answer.

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The kids are gone. The house is quiet. And the holidays feel… different.

If you’re navigating your first (or fifth) Christmas as empty nesters, you might be feeling a mix of emotions.

And you’re probably wondering how to make this season feel special when it’s just the two of you.

​Check out these 12 gift ideas that can help you embrace this new chapter and build intimacy in ways you never could when the kids were home

Is Your Phone The Third Wheel In Your Marriage?

Alisa here. Phones have changed everything about how we connect.

But is there a way to use your smartphone as a tool instead of a source of disconnection in your marriage?

Tune in now to hear:

  • How to recognize when phones are replacing real connection with your partner
  • The difference between using tech intentionally vs. habitually (and why it matters)
  • What to say (and not say) when your spouse is always on their phone
  • How to align your family's phone use with your shared values as a couple

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Browse the categories and place your order today so you can check the most important gift off your list (yes, the one for your spouse!).

Today's Trivia Answer

Question: What percentage of ONE Family couples have boundaries about what they share with friends and family regarding their sex life?

A. 11%

B. 36%

C. 61%

D. 86%

Only 36% of you have clear boundaries about what you share with friends and family regarding your sex life.

If you haven't had that conversation with your spouse, you're setting yourself up for potential heartache and arguments.

Start with a simple question: "If sex comes up in conversation with friends or family, what would you be okay with me sharing?"

For example...

  • Your use of toys
  • Your positions
  • Embarrassing moments
  • Your frequency

These conversations need boundaries, and only the two of you can decide what's off-limits.

🎧 Check out this episode for more >>​

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  3. Work with Alisa One-on-One. If you'd like to work directly with Alisa to improve your marriage... just reply to this message and put "One-on-One" in the subject line... share a little about what's going on in your marriage and she'll get you all the details.

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Hey we're Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

We are the co-authors of the Amazon best seller, The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and 7 Days of Sex Challenge book. We believe that the healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together. We write, podcast, and coach couples around the world. We have been married since 1996 and have a son and a daughter. We live in Naples, FL

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