🫶 Your marriage needs more touch (not just sex)


Most of the time, when you hear "physical intimacy" or "physical connection," people are talking about sex.

But in our work with couples, we've seen that loving, non-sexual touch (physical intimacy) is absolutely vital for marriage, right alongside sexual intimacy.

Here's the thing: you can have physical intimacy without it leading to sex.

But strong sexual intimacy without physical touch? Nearly impossible.

The two are so connected that a lack of physical intimacy often leads to disconnection in the bedroom.

This isn't about touching more just to have more sex (although if that's what you both want, go for it!).

This is about strengthening an often-overlooked pillar of intimacy.

Click here for 10 ways to boost your physical connection TODAY >>

Love you guys,

Tony & Alisa

Today's Trivia

Question: What percentage of couples in the ONE Family struggle to find time "for just the two of us" during the holidays?

A. 38%

B. 57%

C. 76%

D. 95%

⬇️ Scroll to the end for the answer.

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When was the last time you and your spouse slow danced in the kitchen? Held hands just because? Cuddled on the couch without it leading anywhere else?

If you're struggling to remember, your physical connection needs some serious TLC.

"But our sex life is fine." Maybe that’s true.

Still, sexual intimacy and physical intimacy aren’t the same thing.

And we’ve seen over and over that a lack of physical intimacy (loving, non-sexual touch) eventually leads to disconnection in the bedroom.

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Today's Trivia Answer

Question: What percentage of couples in the ONE Family struggle to find time "for just the two of us" during the holidays?

A. 38%

B. 57%

C. 76%

D. 95%

With the holidays right around the corner, you might be wondering how you'll find time for just the two of you.

Here's the truth: connecting during busy seasons will look different than your norm. And that's okay.

But having a game plan is one of the best ways to ensure your marriage stays strong, even when everything around you gets crazy.

Looking for simple ways to make time for each other during the chaos?

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When you're ready, here are 3 ways we can help you...

  1. Join the ​private ONE Family Facebook group​. Connect with others in the ONE Family who are strengthening their 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and more. - Tap Here
  2. Don’t settle for a “logistics-only” marriage. Transform your marriage from one that is emotionally distant and sexually frustrated to one of deep connection and passion. - Tap Here Now
  3. Work with Alisa One-on-One. If you'd like to work directly with Alisa to improve your marriage... just reply to this message and put "One-on-One" in the subject line... share a little about what's going on in your marriage and she'll get you all the details.

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Hey we're Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

We are the co-authors of the Amazon best seller, The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and 7 Days of Sex Challenge book. We believe that the healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together. We write, podcast, and coach couples around the world. We have been married since 1996 and have a son and a daughter. We live in Naples, FL

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