A 2-minute marriage check-in 💬


Hey Reader,

In The 6 Pillars of Intimacy®, we describe emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy as the anchors and supports for the other four pillars.

Both have a huge impact on how close and connected you feel.

So today, we want you to take the temperature of these two pillars in your marriage:

  • Has it been a while since you felt heard and understood?
  • Or are you longing for more romance, initiation, and intercourse?

Click below to watch today's video ▶️

There are small things you can try to rebuild connection, like...

  • Get up a little earlier to make coffee together and have a real conversation
  • Or carve out time to cuddle naked and see where it takes you

Share your answer in the poll below ⬇️

Love you guys,
Tony & Alisa

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Are you a business owner (or do you run a brand) that genuinely serves married couples?

We're opening the door to a few trust-based partnerships this year, and before we look anywhere else, we wanted to start by talking with people already in this community.

This isn't about buying ad space. It's about building real, long-term relationships with brands that support marriages, families, health, homes, or faith—companies we'd actually feel good recommending to the ONE Family.

If that sounds like you (or someone you know), send us a message at partnerships@oneextraordinarymarriage.com and let's start a conversation.

Go Deeper with Your 6 Pillars

If your foreplay has grown a bit tiresome (or worse, you completely skip it), we've got 13 exciting ideas to shake things up:

A few favorites from the list:

😉 Blindfolded foreplay
💋 Play a kissing game
🍓 Feed each other sensual desserts
🧊 Try some hot and cold play
...and 9 more ideas you'll want to try

When you're ready, here are 3 ways we can help you...

  1. Join the ​private ONE Family Facebook group​. Connect with others in the ONE Family who are strengthening their 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and more. - Tap Here
  2. Don’t settle for a “logistics-only” marriage. Transform your marriage from one that is emotionally distant and sexually frustrated to one of deep connection and passion. - Tap Here Now
  3. Work with Alisa One-on-One. If you'd like to work directly with Alisa to improve your marriage... just reply to this message and put "One-on-One" in the subject line... share a little about what's going on in your marriage and she'll get you all the details.

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Hey we're Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

We are the co-authors of the Amazon best seller, The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and 7 Days of Sex Challenge book. We believe that the healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together. We write, podcast, and coach couples around the world. We have been married since 1996 and have a son and a daughter. We live in Naples, FL

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