Too cold for sex 🥶


Hey Reader,

"Freeze protection warning." We didn't expect to get that notification this week while living in SW Florida. 😂

While we don't love cold weather, we know many of you enjoy it. And it got us thinking about how seasons and weather impact marriage, even sexual intimacy!

Click below to watch today's video ▶️

Love bundling up together? Prefer the heat?

Share your answer in the poll below ⬇️

Love you guys,
Tony & Alisa

90-Day Reset for Sharp, Strong Men

Tony here. If you’re a man in your 40s or 50s and feeling tired, foggy, softer around the middle, or disconnected in the bedroom… You’re not alone.

The problem is that most of us think it’s a motivation problem. We try working harder, staying active, or managing our stress better.

And yet, nothing works like it used to.

Here’s why 👉 Your metabolism has changed.

When metabolic health declines:

  • Sleep gets lighter
  • Testosterone drops
  • Belly fat increases
  • Energy becomes inconsistent
  • Libido and performance take a hit

And even moderate habits—like occasional drinking, late nights, or poor recovery—can block metabolic repair, even if everything else looks “healthy.”

I discovered this firsthand when I cut out alcohol entirely last year. I couldn’t believe the difference in how I showed up mentally, physically, and sexually.

Small shifts like that are exactly what we’re unpacking in tonight’s LIVE 75-minute masterclass:
The Honest Truth: Why You’re Feeling Puffy, Foggy, and Disconnected in the Bedroom

You’ll discover:

  • Why sexual health is the clearest metabolic signal
  • How men unknowingly sabotage recovery
  • The 90-day reset that restores energy, sleep, and drive

You don’t need to reset every habit. You just need to learn how your body works now (not how it worked at 30).

Go Deeper with Your 6 Pillars

Have you ever turned down sex in the winter because you were too cold?

Maybe you couldn’t imagine taking off your cozy pajamas or breaking out of your cocoon of blankets. 🥶 Or perhaps the thought of your spouse’s icy hands on your exposed skin made you shiver.

This winter, keep your sexual intimacy strong by finding solutions to the cold. 🙌

When you're ready, here are 3 ways we can help you...

  1. Join the ​private ONE Family Facebook group​. Connect with others in the ONE Family who are strengthening their 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and more. - Tap Here
  2. Don’t settle for a “logistics-only” marriage. Transform your marriage from one that is emotionally distant and sexually frustrated to one of deep connection and passion. - Tap Here Now
  3. Work with Alisa One-on-One. If you'd like to work directly with Alisa to improve your marriage... just reply to this message and put "One-on-One" in the subject line... share a little about what's going on in your marriage and she'll get you all the details.

The ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show has a 4.6 average rating. Listen now on your favorite app.


Connect with us on social media

Hey we're Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

We are the co-authors of the Amazon best seller, The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and 7 Days of Sex Challenge book. We believe that the healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together. We write, podcast, and coach couples around the world. We have been married since 1996 and have a son and a daughter. We live in Naples, FL

Read more from Hey we're Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

Hey Reader, We hear it from couples all the time: "I wish we were more connected." And yet, are you actually planning for connection so you can ensure it happens? Click below to watch today's video ▶️ Lots of couples wait for the right time or the right mood for connection to happen... Except that connection rarely happens on its own. Share your answer in the poll below ⬇️ Love you guys,Tony & Alisa Connection usually happens because… We plan for it 🗓️ We hope for it 🤞 Go Deeper with Your 6...

Hey Reader, In The 6 Pillars of Intimacy®, we describe emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy as the anchors and supports for the other four pillars. Both have a huge impact on how close and connected you feel. So today, we want you to take the temperature of these two pillars in your marriage: Has it been a while since you felt heard and understood? Or are you longing for more romance, initiation, and intercourse? Click below to watch today's video ▶️ There are small things you can try to...

Hey Reader, With Valentine's just two days away... is sex on the mind? Early in our marriage, Valentine's Day was one of the few days Tony could count on for sexual intimacy. But what about you? Click below to watch today's video ▶️ Remember that Valentine's Day is only 1 day out of 365 days. No matter what happens on Saturday, it's those other 364 days that really build deeper connection. Share your answer in the poll below ⬇️ Love you guys,Tony & Alisa When it comes to Valentine’s Day sex,...