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If libido drops and date nights fade...

Published about 2 months ago • 4 min read


Listen, we know that spiritual intimacy doesn't sound sexy.

It's usually one of the last pillars people think of when it comes to marriage and intimacy...

But here's something else we know:

As you grow old together, some sexual aspects of your relationship will dwindle. Medications, treatments, and supplements can only do so much.

And when libido fades, hands folded together in prayer will take over.

If your Spiritual Intimacy Pillar isn't where you want it to be, give today's article a quick read.

You might just get the push you need to make this pillar a priority.

Love you guys,

Tony & Alisa

This Week's Article

Spiritual intimacy tends to be easy for couples to forget.

It might not seem as glamorous as a dinner date or as enticing as foreplay.

But all of The 6 Pillars of Intimacy are necessary for a strong, healthy, and beautiful marriage—including spiritual intimacy.

One way to make sure you’re keeping your spiritual intimacy strong is to pray together as a couple.

Praying together creates a firm foundation for your relationship.

It helps you look at things from a new perspective, partner together as husband and wife, and build intimacy in a meaningful way.

➡️ If you’re ready to enhance your spiritual intimacy, here are three great reasons why you should pray with your spouse.

Test Your Knowledge

Question: What’s the #1 boo-boo or injury that couples in the ONE Family have experienced during sex?

A. Cramps

B. Back pain

C. Migraines

D. Cuts/Scratches

Scroll to the end for the answer.

Get Adventurous This Spring!

Recreational intimacy is more than just “having fun.” It’s an intentional time to be present with your spouse.

Couples who date regularly can lower their chances of divorce by 14%!

With that said, here are some of the most unique date ideas to help rekindle romance and create new memories together:

1. Hot air ballooning at sunrise

If you gaze in awe when you spot a hot air balloon in the sky, this is your sign to go in one with your spouse! Imagine witnessing the sunrise with your spouse while high above the ground. Afterward, you can head to breakfast together to soak in the beauty of your morning adventure.

2. Build a time capsule

Create a memory that you can revisit years down the line. Fill your time capsule with photos, special trinkets, and letters to your future selves. Then, set a date when you’ll open the time capsule again.

3. Play laser tag

Laser tag isn’t just for kids. You and your spouse can put your teamwork to the test as you work together to take down people from the other team. You can feel your recreational intimacy build as you stick together in the maze, quietly communicate your next moves, and perhaps steal a kiss in a dark corner.

4. Go skydiving

Get an adrenaline rush with your love by jumping out of a plane together. Most first-time skydivers go tandem skydiving with a professional, or you can research other options, such as static line skydiving, which require a few hours of training before you jump solo. Whichever method you choose, it’s sure to be a date you never forget.

5. Virtual reality gaming

Do you consider yourselves gamers? Then take this date idea and make it a reality! Experience VR at home or at an arcade with virtual reality games. Better yet, play exciting multiplayer games and interact with each other in VR.

6. Blindfolded taste testing

Here’s a tasty way to learn about your spouse: have an at-home date where you conduct blindfolded taste testing of all your favorite food and drink items. You can each pick out your favorite things and take turns guessing the surprise food.

This Week's Deal

Do you love audiobooks? Then you're going to love this!

From now until the end of the month, you can purchase The 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to an Extraordinary Marriage audiobook for just $4.99 on Spotify and Apple Books!

Whether you're new to the ONE Family or have been following along for a while, this book will show you how easy it can be to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage.

As you read, you'll discover:

  • What the six pillars of intimacy are
  • Why solid and straight pillars are essential to keep your marriage thriving and ensure everything goes along smoothly
  • How cracks in your pillars can cause your marriage to start to collapse
  • Our own story, experience, and relationship struggles (and how we used this framework to change everything!)

Even the best marriages can have cracks in their relationships.

The difference is that extraordinary couples take action when they see those cracks happening.

Get The 6 Pillars of Intimacy Audiobook today to experience the extraordinary marriage you desire and deserve. ⬇️

P.S. This deal ends March 31, 2024, at 11:59 p.m. Pacific. Don't wait to get your audiobook at a massive discount!

Question: What’s the #1 boo-boo or injury that couples in the ONE Family have experienced during sex?

A. Cramps

B. Back pain

C. Migraines

D. Cuts/Scratches

Couples have experienced all kinds of sex injuries. In fact, 48% of couples in the ONE Family say they’ve gotten injured having sex.

Some spouses have pulled muscles; others have smacked their heads on furniture.

Certain accidents leave spouses with a bloody nose, black eye, or rug burns.

People experience abrasions, cuts, scratches, and more. There are accidental kicks and headbutts. Ovarian cysts might pop.

Above all, the top sex injury is cramping, whether foot, leg, butt, arm, or otherwise.

Clearly, sex injuries are common amongst the ONE Family. And many of them are unavoidable.

But since marriage doesn’t come with a manual, you might not know how to respond when something like this happens.

So what do you do?

🎧 Listen to our conversation about how to address sex injuries with your spouse.


When you're ready, here are 3 ways we can help you...

  1. Find us on Instagram and the private ONE Family Facebook group. Connect with others in the ONE Family who are strengthening their 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and more.
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Hey we're Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

We are the co-authors of the Amazon best seller, The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and 7 Days of Sex Challenge book. We believe that the healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together. We write, podcast, and coach couples around the world. We have been married since 1996 and have a son and a daughter. We live in San Diego, CA.

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