15 fun ways to get out of a marriage rut



Has your marriage ever felt... boring?

It's natural to feel bored if you're doing the same things day after day.

But it's not healthy to stay in that place forever.

Extraordinary couples take action!

Check out today's article for 15 ideas to help you shake up your marriage routine and beat boredom.

Love you guys,

Tony & Alisa

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This Week's Article

No one ever thinks their relationship will grow stale, but boredom can creep into a marriage bit by bit.

The difference with extraordinary couples is that they don’t let boredom bog them down.

With a few practical ideas, you can shake up your relationship routine and recharge your intimacy.

Here's a sneak peek 😉

  • Renew Your Vows in a Meaningful Way
  • Create a Bucket List
  • Take a Spontaneous Road Trip
  • Attend Live Performances
  • Take a Romantic Getaway
  • Plan Surprise Date Nights
  • Have a Technology-Free Day

➡️ Check out all 15 ideas for overcoming boredom in your marriage.

Test Your Knowledge

Question: Among the ONE Family, what percentage of couples are likely to save the money of a tax refund versus spend it?

A. 0% save / 100% spend

B. 30% save / 70% spend

C. 60% save / 40% spend

D. 90% save / 10% spend

Scroll to the end for the answer.

The Truth About Morning Sex

There are all sorts of benefits that come from morning sex—the stresses of the day haven’t work you out emotionally, you’re already in bed together, a shower and getting dressed are imminent anyway, and your body is relaxed.

Needless to say, many men desire sex when they first wake up but might be reluctant to ask for it.

For many couples it’s the perfect time to occasionally have sexual intimacy.

But so many skip over it with simple excuses.

The reality is that 25% of people say they are most aroused first thing in the morning, but only 10% of couples have sex at that time.

We’re not proposing you only have sex in the mornings, but with that significant of a gap, we want you to be equipped to overcome the obstacles.

Here are 3 tips for adding morning sex to your marriage toolbox 🛠️

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Question: Among the ONE Family, what percentage of couples are likely to save the money of a tax refund versus spend it?

A. 0% save / 100% spend

B. 30% save / 70% spend

C. 60% save / 40% spend

D. 90% save / 10% spend

An important marriage-strengthening strategy during tax time is to have open and honest conversations with your spouse.

Financial conversations can be uncomfortable or upsetting. Talking with your spouse often and openly helps break down these barriers.

Discuss any anxiety you may feel about taxes.

You and your spouse likely have different emotions about money, so tax season is a great time to share these feelings and seek to understand each other.

If you are expecting a refund, it’s important to discuss how you plan to use it.

Again, strong emotional intimacy helps create a safe environment for these conversations to occur.

🧾 Click here to read all 5 ways to protect your intimacy during tax season


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Hey we're Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

We are the co-authors of the Amazon best seller, The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and 7 Days of Sex Challenge book. We believe that the healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together. We write, podcast, and coach couples around the world. We have been married since 1996 and have a son and a daughter. We live in Naples, FL

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