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Published about 15 hours ago • 2 min read

The 12 Days of Christmas technically start next week. 🎄 But there's no better time than right now to put some intentional effort into your marriage.

Our 12 Days of Christmas Challenge helps you do just that.

Start today. Or on Christmas Day. Or whenever works for you!

Each day has a simple way to strengthen your closeness and connection (in other words, intimacy).

A glimpse of the ideas:

  • Write love letters
  • Share a romantic meal
  • Reflect on 2025 and dream about 2026
  • Go analog with a board game

Like we've been talking about this week, extraordinary couples don't let the holidays come between them and their spouse.

​Start the Christmas Challenge >>>​

Love you guys,
Tony & Alisa

Today's Trivia

Question: Within the ONE Family, who does the majority of the Christmas shopping? 🛍️

A. The wife does

B. The husband does

C. We split it

⬇️ Scroll to the end for the answer.

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What will your true love give to you this Christmas? With this 12 Days of Christmas Challenge, you can focus on strengthening all aspects of your marriage.

Your schedules are likely packed this time of year. But with a little effort, you can enjoy a fun and sexy challenge that brings you and your spouse closer together.

Today's Trivia Answer

Question: Within the ONE Family, who does the majority of the Christmas shopping?

A. The wife does

B. The husband does

C. We split it

Among the ONE Family, 78% of wives do the majority of Christmas shopping.

Only 19% of you split it, and just 3% said the husband handles most of it.

Whether it's you or your spouse managing the shopping, one thing you should BOTH be involved in is planning what you spend.

That might look like:

  • A quick budget meeting
  • Creating a separate account for gifts
  • Checking in weekly to hold each other accountable

A lack of transparency around holiday spending can lead to disconnection and resentment.

It's not too late to have this conversation before you finish your shopping!

​Let's talk: Spending Money at Christmas 💸🎄

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Hey we're Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

We are the co-authors of the Amazon best seller, The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and 7 Days of Sex Challenge book. We believe that the healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together. We write, podcast, and coach couples around the world. We have been married since 1996 and have a son and a daughter. We live in Naples, FL

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