Ahh retirement bliss...

Whether it's on the near horizon for you or feels forever away, there's an important aspect of retirement you might need to prepare for:

What happens if one of you retires before the other?

Just like any major life transition, there's the possibility for frustration and resentment if you aren't properly prepared for what's to come.

In this week's article, you'll find solutions whether it's you or your spouse who's retiring early. It's never too early to have these conversations!

Love you guys,

Tony & Alisa

This Week's Article

In marriage, you and your spouse will face countless life changes. With every new job, home, or child, there is an adjustment period.

But the transition into retirement is often overlooked, especially when one spouse retires before the other.

When one spouse retires first—whether due to age, health, portfolio, or other factors—resentment and frustration can build.

During this transition, you must guard against cracks forming in your 6 Pillars of Intimacy®.

Being on the same page with your spouse and knowing what to expect can help you enjoy the rewards of retirement together.

So... is one of you planning to retire before the other?

​Don't miss these crucial tips to keep your marriage strong (and resentment-free!). ​

Test Your Knowledge

Question: Among the ONE Family, what percentage of people say they have had a great sexual encounter with their spouse, even when they weren't feeling it?

A. 30%

B. 50%

C. 70%

D. 90%

Scroll to the end for the answer.

Tom and Amanda needed something to change...

Maybe you’ve seen the other emails I’ve sent out over the last week or so, talking about your wedding vows, the storms in your marriage or even statements like “this is just the way I am”.

A lot of people have been so courageous as to take the first step and reply to one or more of those emails. It takes courage to say, “I want something different for my marriage.”

And yet, here’s what I know about the hundreds of couples I’ve worked with over the years. The most successful ones, the ones that see the breakthrough, aren’t the ones who say I’m interested in changing the cycles. They’re the ones who say, “What we’ve been doing isn’t working and we need help to learn how to do this differently” and then they take action—they start coaching.

So let me ask you, “Is the way that you fight/handle conflict/disagree working for you?”

If it’s not stop doing the same things and expecting a different result. By the way, that's the definition of insanity.

Instead have courage to be like Tom and Amanda.

They realized that the patterns that were developing in their young marriage weren’t working. The shutting down, the walking away, the loud emotional outbursts weren’t drawing them closer together instead it was pushing them apart.

They realized they needed help to break the cycles in their marriage. They needed someone else to look at the patterns from the 30,000 foot level to see what was happening and help them with tools and strategies for their marriage.

They realized that they didn’t know what they didn’t know about conflict cycles, conflict resolution and how to do things better. They understood that if something didn’t change, down the road divorce might be an option for them.

So, they chose something different. They choose to learn what their patterns were, what they were experiencing internally and projecting externally. They chose to learn how to interrupt the cycles in order to feel more connected. They chose to get coaching.

What about you?

​Break the Conflict Cycle Coaching shows you how to identify your cycles, understand the impact your past is having on your present and how to break those cycles.

While aspects of conflict shows up in virtually every coaching session that I do this is the first time that I’m dedicating coaching to helping couples break the cycles around their #1 marriage conflict.

There’s just a few more days to enroll as we’re closing this at 4:59 pm PST TODAY, Thursday, February 22nd.

This is starting tonight…you can click on the link below to get the details.

And for those of you wondering: No, I don’t know if/when I’ll be offering this again.

So, if repeated conflict has been an issue in your marriage now is the time to take action.

Anyway…

​Click here for the details. ​

Your marriage coach,

Alisa

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Question: Among the ONE Family, what percentage of people say they have had a great sexual encounter with their spouse, even when they weren't feeling it?

A. 30%

B. 50%

C. 70%

D. 90%

Has this ever happened to you?

You’re tired, disconnected, overwhelmed, or, for whatever other reason, uninterested in having sex with your spouse.

But the two of you initiate sexual intimacy. And soon enough, you’re enjoying yourself!

Among the ONE Family, 90% of you say you’ve had sex when you weren’t feeling it and had a great encounter with your spouse.

So, instead of playing the high desire/low desire tug-of-war, what if there was a different way to look at it?

Maybe you’re the spouse who rarely feels in the mood, but you know that sex with your spouse will be great as long as you can get your brain and body to that point.

Or you might be the spouse experiencing changes in hormones or libido. As a result, your desire for sex has decreased.

These situations don’t mean that your spouse doesn’t know how to arouse you or that you no longer find them attractive.

But during various seasons of marriage, you might find that you simply don’t feel like having sex.

In these seasons, you can strengthen your emotional and sexual intimacy by discussing what is going on for you and your spouse—and by approaching this situation from a new perspective.

You’ve likely believed the typical model of “If I have desire, I’ll get aroused.”

It’s time to flip that perspective and acknowledge that not everyone experiences desire before they get aroused.

​Here's what you should know if "I don't feel like having sex" is a common saying in your marriage... ​

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