The lie about “spontaneous” sex 🧨


Hey Reader,

What would your marriage look like if sex was happening consistently… not just when everything lines up perfectly?

Most couples don't want to admit this, but waiting for a spontaneous moment usually means it rarely happens at all.

That's exactly why we created The Intimacy Lifestyle back when our kids were little.

We knew that if we didn't make sex a priority, it just wouldn't happen. And we didn't want that to be our story.

Want to see how it works?

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🤔 Have you considered scheduling sex before? How did it go?

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Love you guys,
Tony & Alisa

P.S. Did your kids move back home after you finally hit empty nester status? We just published a brand new article on protecting your marriage through the boomerang season. Check it out here.

Go Deeper with Your 6 Pillars

You finally did it.

The kids were gone, the house got quiet, and you and your spouse started rediscovering each other.

You went on date nights again, had long conversations, and maybe even left the bedroom door open.

And then… your 22-year-old moved back in.

Or your college student came home for the summer.

Or their plans changed… again.

And suddenly you’re somewhere in between empty nesting and full-on parenting, trying to figure out what the rules even are anymore.

You’re not alone. When we asked our ONE Family on Instagram “Do you have kids at home?” the responses flooded in:

  • “You need an option for ‘was an empty nester then our 20-something moved back home’!”
  • “College nesting is a weird place to be. Not quite kids at home, not quite empty nesters.”

If you’ve listened to us on the podcast, you know we’ve shared our own experience with this too.

So let’s talk about what this season actually does to your marriage. And more importantly, what you can do to protect and strengthen your 6 Pillars of Intimacy® through it.

When you're ready, here are 3 ways we can help you...

  1. Join the ​private ONE Family Facebook group​. Connect with others in the ONE Family who are strengthening their 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and more. - Tap Here
  2. Don’t settle for a “logistics-only” marriage. Transform your marriage from one that is emotionally distant and sexually frustrated to one of deep connection and passion. - Tap Here Now
  3. Work with Alisa One-on-One. If you'd like to work directly with Alisa to improve your marriage... just reply to this message and put "One-on-One" in the subject line... share a little about what's going on in your marriage and she'll get you all the details.

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