We are the co-authors of the Amazon best seller, The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and 7 Days of Sex Challenge book. We believe that the healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together. We write, podcast, and coach couples around the world. We have been married since 1996 and have a son and a daughter. We live in Naples, FL
The Best Kept Secret for Better Intimacy?
It really is the simple things that can mean the most to your spouse.
Like a love note, for instance. 💌
It could be a sticky note you put on the bathroom mirror.
Or a slip of paper you slide into their lunch box or purse.
Even a note on their pillow after a long day can bring a smile to their face.
Love notes don't have to be complicated.
If you're looking for some ideas, this week's article has 7 tips to keep in mind as you write your spouse a love note.
Love you guys,
Tony & Alisa
P.S. You can download the FREE 21 Little Love Notes to get started!
This Week's Article
Do you remember the last time your spouse gave you a handwritten love note?
If you're like us, you might have a stash of letters and cards saved to remember special moments from your relationship.
These love letters are so special!
In fact, love notes are a powerful way to build emotional intimacy with your spouse.
Yet many couples forget about the art of love letters once they’re married.
If you haven’t written your spouse a love note recently, you might wonder where to begin...
Check out this week's article for 7 simple tips to write the perfect love note to your spouse.
Test Your Knowledge
Question: Approximately what percentage of couples in the ONE Family prefer to have sex before going on a date?
A. 20%
B. 35%
C. 50%
D. 65%
Scroll to the end for the answer.
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Get Closer as a Couple
A great way to add excitement and adventure to your sexual intimacy is with a sexy board game!
The Tic-Tac-To the Bedroom Game is a favorite among the ONE Family. This fun game is a way to show your inner passions for each other and deepen both emotional and sexual intimacy.
No more saying "I don't know" when your spouse asks what you want in the bedroom...
Tic-Tac-To the Bedroom will help you explore each other, increase intimacy, try new things, or even bring back some old forgotten pleasures.
This game is different from other bedroom games for couples because it was created by the OpenMity couple—a loving couple with small kids, tons of daily tasks and duties, and a genuine desire to help other couples keep their sex lives passionate and exciting.
With 50 sexy questions, 28 foreplay activities, and 28 intimate sex activities, it can help the two of you deepen your emotional and sexual intimacy in fun and unique ways.
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Question: Approximately what percentage of couples in the ONE Family prefer to have sex before going on a date?
A. 20%
B. 35%
C. 50%
D. 65%
In a poll about sex and date nights, 35% of you said you prefer to have sex before heading out on your date.
Within the ONE Family, 65% of you prefer sex after date night.
However, 82% of you said you are frustrated with sex not happening after a date night.
There's lots of reasons why this might happen...
When you come home, the mood can fizzle and you might be faced with one or all of these statements from your spouse:
- “I’m too tired.”
- “I just want to go to bed.
- “I’m not in the mood.”
- “I’m too full.”
- “I just want to get comfy and read.”
If this sounds like your typical date night, it might be time to change things up.
First, have you ever asked your spouse what his or her expectations are for going on a date?
Unspoken expectations can't be met!
Second, have you considered have sex before going on your date?
While it's not what's typically shown in movies and media, sex before your date can ensure that your activities don't disrupt any plans.
Remember, nothing is set in stone. You and your spouse have the full freedom to make your sexual intimacy your own.
Give yourself permission to try something different.
Having sex before date night can take all the pressure off of what you’re eating or drinking or how late you’re staying up because you’ve already connected.
Would sex before date night be a game changer in your marriage? Only you and your spouse can decide that.
Click here to listen to the full Episode 494: Sex Before Date Night
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Hey we're Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo
We are the co-authors of the Amazon best seller, The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and 7 Days of Sex Challenge book. We believe that the healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together. We write, podcast, and coach couples around the world. We have been married since 1996 and have a son and a daughter. We live in Naples, FL
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