Different sexual desires can be challenging for couples.

There's all kinds of terms you can use:

• High desire / Low desire
• High sex drive / Low sex drive
• High libido / Low libido

A term you might not have heard before is "responsive desire."

Understanding responsive desire versus spontaneous desire may help you navigate your sexual differences with more confidence.

Check out this week's article as we bust some myths about responsive desire and what it means for your marriage.

Love you guys,

Tony & Alisa

This Week's Article

Many couples get married thinking that arousal follows desire.

However, this isn’t true for everyone.

Responsive desire is a normal and common experience for many spouses.

Whereas spontaneous desire happens almost automatically, responsive desire requires more intentionality.

There are five major lies about responsive desire that you might believe.

It’s time to clear things up so you can experience stronger sexual intimacy.

​👀 Here's the TRUTH about how responsive desire affects your sex life. ​

Test Your Knowledge

Question: What percentage of the ONE Family says they like seeing their spouse in sexy underwear?

A. 39%

B. 54%

C. 71%

D. 86%

Scroll to the end for the answer.

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Question: What percentage of the ONE Family says they like seeing their spouse in sexy underwear?

A. 39%

B. 54%

C. 71%

D. 86%

Your underwear drawer might impact your marriage more than you think.

When we surveyed the ONE Family about whether you like seeing your spouse in sexy underwear, 71% of you said, "Yes!"

The remaining 29% of you said it didn't matter as much to you.

Whatever part of that statistic you relate with, it's time to assess what’s in your underwear drawer.

Often, underwear is considered little more than a functional article of clothing.

But it can also be a tool that promotes connection between the two of you.

Because when you look good and feel good, the entire dynamic between you and your spouse can shift.

➡️ Here are 3 tips for sprucing up your underwear drawer (and your sex life!)​

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