One of the biggest challenges that coaching clients face is how to do conflict well.

It's a challenge because the two you come from different backgrounds, which means how you see conflict and how you respond to conflict can be very different.

Not knowing how to handle disagreements in a healthy way can cause cracks to form in your 6 Pillars of Intimacy®, especially in your emotional intimacy.

But thankfully, learning to resolve conflict well is a skill. That means it can be learned. Check out today's article for 9 things to remember as you approach conflict resolution in your marriage.

Love you guys,

Tony & Alisa

This Week's Article

Conflict is an inevitable part of life, but how you approach conflict resolution with your spouse determines the health of your marriage.

Conflict can arise in your marriage for many reasons.

You might disagree over how to handle household chores or how often to go on a date. Or you might fight about certain behaviors or how often you have sex.

From small things to big, friction can put a strain on your marriage. So it's important to resolve arguments promptly and properly.

With that in mind, here are nine things to know to help you resolve conflict in your marriage.

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Test Your Knowledge

Question: What percentage of marriages have common boundaries regarding relationships with people of the opposite sex?

A. 33%

B. 45%

C. 62%

D. 79%

Scroll to the end for the answer.

How to Address Anxiety

When you or your spouse experience anxiety and worry more days than not, it can strain and weaken the closeness and connection you have with one another.

Before getting into some strategies to help tackle the anxiety, let’s clearly define what generalized anxiety looks like.

People with Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) experience chronic, or extreme, worry they feel they can’t control. They may also experience physical symptoms like irritability, restlessness and edginess, insomnia, muscle tension, difficulty concentrating, or being easily fatigued.

If that description sounds like you or your spouse, here are some strategies to overcome the anxiety:

Start with muscle relaxation or deep breathing. People carry stress in their bodies. Some common examples are clenching your jaws, tightening your fists, or tensing your shoulders.

To release the physical anxiety, sit down and begin at the tip of your head and focus on each area of your body. Then release any tightness, visualizing yourself turning to jello. Do from the top of your head to your toes.

Make time to discuss the facts around the worry with your spouse. When you look at the facts rather than the fears, you can significantly reduce the worry around the future event. One important fact to remember is the “what ifs” of anxiety rarely happens. Research shows 85% of what we worry about never happens, and the 15% does occur? 79% of people in one study said they discovered they could handle it better than they expected.

Schedule “worry sessions.” Don’t laugh; even if it sounds counterintuitive. When you plan time regularly to devote your full attention to your worries, and then leave them there for the next time, it is tremendously helpful in containing the amount of worrying you do.

Be fully present when you are around each other. Focus on what you are currently doing, and intentionally use all your senses to be engaged and aware of how you feel. When you intentionally focus on what is in front of you, putting all your attention into it, it reduces anxiety significantly.

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The ONE Family Said...

Question: Have you ever used a pillow/ramp/wedge to change your positioning during sex?

Response: 53% of you said "No."

That means 53% of you are missing out on benefits like these:

Improved sexual experience
New possibilities for more pleasure
Deeper and more intense thrusting
Added support for new and familiar positions
Reduced or eliminated body aches and pains during sex

Incorporating sex pillows and wedges into your sexual intimacy can enhance what you are already doing and equip you to try new things.

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Question: What percentage of marriages have common boundaries regarding relationships with people of the opposite sex?

A. 33%

B. 45%

C. 62%

D. 79%

Based on a survey of 365 couples, we found that 79% of them have boundaries regarding relationships with people of the opposite sex.

To take it a step further, 3 out of 4 marriage who did NOT have shared boundaries think that they should!

The data is clear: couples who have defined, shared boundaries regarding interactions with people of the opposite sex have fewer trust issues than those who don’t.

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