🔑 The Key to Deeper Intimacy With Each Other


In the early years of our marriage, we didn't really discuss faith, religion, or spirituality.

It was a non-factor in our marriage until late 2000 when Tony hiked the Pacific Crest Trail.

While he was hiking, we both had separate, powerful experiences that led us to explore what spiritual intimacy looked like for us as a couple.

Maybe you can relate to spiritual intimacy feeling like a non-starter in your marriage too...

Or maybe your faith is already a strong foundation to your marriage...

Wherever you find yourself, today's article is filled with lots of golden nuggets to take you both into deeper levels of spiritual intimacy.

Love you guys,

Tony & Alisa

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Imagine this… You’ve planned the most exquisite surprise day date.

You spare no expense in a lavish picnic. You bring comfy pillows, amazing food in a quaint basket, a checkered blanket, and even an umbrella to keep the sun at bay.

You’ve heard about a stunning, secluded spot from a friend. It’s in the middle of an open field next to a rock wall and some beautiful trees.

It’ll be the perfect setting for a romantic date.

You get off work early and go to pick up your spouse in a freshly cleaned car. Off you drive to a spot that you know will fulfill all your wildest dreams.

The conversation on the way over is amazing. Questions and answers flow as easily as your laughter. You feel a true reconnection after a busy week.

The anticipation builds as you park the car off to the side of the road where your friend told you to. You pop the trunk and grab all your neatly packed picnic gear.

You’re almost running now, hand in hand, as you both head toward the trail. You pause momentarily to stare into each other’s eyes. You tell your one and only how much you’ve been looking forward to this.

Finally you break apart and take the final turn towards heaven on earth.

That’s when it all comes crashing down.

Planted right in the middle of the entrance to the field, with a brand new fence underneath it, is a huge red and white sign that derails your wildest dreams:

NO TRESPASSING.

You see the look of disappointment in your honey’s eyes. Before they can even get out the words, “Why didn’t you check beforehand?” you launch a preemptive strike, turn on your heal, let out a heavy sigh, and storm back to the car to sulk.

Instant disconnect.

Has this ever happened in your Spiritual Intimacy Pillar?

Today's Trivia

Question: What percentage of the ONE Family has a will or estate plan in place?

A. 26%

B. 43%

C. 60%

D. 77%

⬇️ Scroll to the end for the answer.

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Strengthening Your 6 Pillars:

🔥 Try a New Sex Position This Weekend 🔥

Trying new sex positions isn’t just for young couples or newlyweds.

Exploring different positions can enhance your sexual intimacy and strengthen your closeness and connection.

To help you out, we're sharing a few new sex positions...

Here's one of them!

The Jugghead Position

Setting yourselves up in The Jugghead Position will have you on the floor, so you may want to grab a blanket. You also need a couch or a bed to perform this position.

👉 Click here to read the full description of how to get into this position.

As you explore new sex positions, keep in mind that every couple is different. Discover what works for the two of you!

If your spouse is hesitant to try one of these positions right out the gate, consider enhancing your sexual intimacy with:

Only go as far as the most conservative spouse is comfortable.

However, if you are the spouse who is unsure about trying something new in the bedroom, remember that it takes time (and plenty of practice!) to become comfortable with unfamiliar things.

Don’t let this hold you back from deeper sexual intimacy!

Today's Trivia Answer

Question: What percentage of the ONE Family has a will or estate plan in place?

A. 26%

B. 43%

C. 60%

D. 77%

You want your spouse to be taken care of if you unexpectedly pass away. And yet 74% of couples in the ONE Family do not have a will in place.

We know it's a hard conversation to have.

And it’s easy to think that you’ll never have to think about it.

But none of us can predict what will happen. Delaying the conversation only allows the “”what if’s” and stresses to grow without resolution.

These conversations are especially necessary if you have children.

Estate planning allows you to come together as a couple and ask the tough questions. For example...

  • What is your spouse’s choices for cremation vs. burial?
  • Who will take care of your children should both of you pass away?
  • What are your personal preferences about life support or power of attorney in medical situations?

Don't leave your spouse to grieve while also having to make end-of-life decisions or stress about financial choices.

Instead, get serious about making a will or an estate plan.

Here are some practical ways to get started ⏩

When you're ready, here are 3 ways we can help you...

  1. Join the ​private ONE Family Facebook group​. Connect with others in the ONE Family who are strengthening their 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and more. - Tap Here
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Hey we're Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

We are the co-authors of the Amazon best seller, The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and 7 Days of Sex Challenge book. We believe that the healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together. We write, podcast, and coach couples around the world. We have been married since 1996 and have a son and a daughter. We live in Naples, FL

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