When Touch Feels Like Pressure 🙃


Hey Reader,

In your marriage, has touch started to become equated with sex?

There's a reason we intentionally separated physical intimacy and sexual intimacy in The 6 Pillars of Intimacy®.

Your marriage needs both.

And if touch feels like pressure to be sexually intimacy, it could be a sign of cracks in your Physical Intimacy Pillar.

Click below to watch today's video ▶️

Remember: cracks in one pillar often show up in the others. Your disconnection might not seem related to touch… but maybe it is.

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Love you guys,
Tony & Alisa

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Spontaneous date nights sound great in theory, but how often can you really pull them off?

Planning dates ensures you get time on the calendar for each other while also keeping your marriage fresh and exciting.

A great method for scheduling your recreational intimacy is thinking of alphabet date ideas.

For example:

  • Aquarium
  • Birdwatching
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  • Drive-In Movie
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Hey we're Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

We are the co-authors of the Amazon best seller, The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and 7 Days of Sex Challenge book. We believe that the healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together. We write, podcast, and coach couples around the world. We have been married since 1996 and have a son and a daughter. We live in Naples, FL

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