"We talk all the time, but I don't feel like we're really connecting."

I (Alisa) can't tell you how often I hear this from couples I'm coaching.

It can be incredibly discouraging because you feel like you're doing what you're supposed to... and yet you don't feel close emotionally.

One thing I've found in working with so many couples is that what works for one couple might not work for another.

So if you've just been trying to "talk more" without much success... you might be going about it all wrong.

In this week's article, we break down 5 different conversation formats so you can experiment and discover what actually works for your marriage.

Maybe the Walk-and-Talk is your thing.

Maybe it's the Single Focus Deep Dive.

Or the Gratitude and Growth Format.

​Find out here >>​

Love you guys,

Tony & Alisa

Today's Trivia

Question: What percentage of couples in the ONE Family say they have experienced distracting thoughts during sex?

A. 40%

B. 58%

C. 76%

D. 94%

⬇️ Scroll to the end for the answer.

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Many couples find themselves stuck in surface-level conversations, wondering where the deeper connection went.

You know each other’s schedules by heart, but when’s the last time you knew what was really on your spouse’s heart?

Just talking more won’t solve anything. The key is having intentional and meaningful conversations.

Click below to discover five different approaches to shift your conversations from something boring to an experience that builds connection. ⤵️

​Click here to read the NEW article >>​

🔥 Roommates to Lovers in 60 Days

Tired of feeling sexually disconnected from your spouse, Reader?

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• 75-minute live group masterclass where I (Alisa) will guide you through the exclusive Foreplay to Passion framework. (Recording available if you can’t join us live.)
• 3 private marriage coaching sessions to tackle the #1 sexual intimacy challenge in YOUR marriage.

In just a few weeks, you'll learn how to:

✅ Understand what's really blocking sexual intimacy: Why does sex feel so forced or routine now?

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Today's Trivia Answer

Question: What percentage of couples in the ONE Family say they have experienced distracting thoughts during sex?

A. 40%

B. 58%

C. 76%

D. 94%

What if the kids walk in? Do I smell? Why can’t I focus?

Distracting thoughts can be a major barrier to being fully present during—and fully enjoying—sexual intimacy.

And you’re not alone: 76% of the ONE Family said they’ve experienced distracting thoughts during sex.

For men, performance tends to be a top distraction, such as pleasing your wife, lasting long enough, or reaching orgasm.

On the other hand, many women are distracted by body image concerns.

When you’re mentally checked out, the body follows. So what can help?

🧠 How to Stay Mentally Present During Sex >>​

When you're ready, here are 3 ways we can help you...

1. Join the ​private ONE Family Facebook group​. Connect with others in the ONE Family who are strengthening their 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and more. - Tap Here
2. Don’t settle for a “logistics-only” marriage. Transform your marriage from one that is emotionally distant and sexually frustrated to one of deep connection and passion. - Tap Here Now​​
3. Work with Alisa One-on-One. If you'd like to work directly with Alisa to improve your marriage... just reply to this message and put "One-on-One" in the subject line... share a little about what's going on in your marriage and she'll get you all the details.

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