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Hey Reader,

Not every couple is in a crisis... But is your marriage functioning more like roommates than teammates?

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If this question hits close to home...

Pick something from your routine that you usually do alone and do it with your spouse this week:

  • Run an errand together
  • Go on a walk-and-talk
  • Watch the same show.

It’s a small but powerful step toward being teammates again, not just roommates.

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Love you guys,
Tony & Alisa

Go Deeper with Your 6 Pillars

A hack is defined as “a strategy or technique for managing one’s time or activities more efficiently.”

And, for the sake of this article, the “activity” you want to manage more effectively (and extraordinarily!) is your marriage.

Apply these liberally and watch your marriage transform.

Our top 7 marriage hacks for how to make love last:

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Hey we're Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

We are the co-authors of the Amazon best seller, The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and 7 Days of Sex Challenge book. We believe that the healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together. We write, podcast, and coach couples around the world. We have been married since 1996 and have a son and a daughter. We live in Naples, FL

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